Admit that you did the offending act or spoke the
offending words (ask for God’s revelation if need be if
nothing comes to mind).
Explain what you were thinking and/or what
you were trying to accomplish at the time.
3. Acknowledge the wrong:
Indicate that you are aware of
the pain, hurt, and/or inconvenience your sin has caused.
Also admit how you have sinned against God with your
words or actions.
Say that you are sorry that YOU caused the
offense and the hurt associated with it (accept
5. Ask for forgiveness:
“Will you please forgive me?” are 5
powerful and relationship-changing words.
6. Affirm the Relationship:
Indicate that the relationship
you have with the offended person is very important to
Make an effort to ease his or her suffering in
some way (i.e. get him or her some ice if there is physical
pain to be dealt with or ask “what can I do to help you
8. Adjust (Reflect):
State what you would have done
differently and will do differently so that you do not
repeat the mistake. Indicate the changes you will make to
prevent it from happening again.