Healthy Love Versus Unhealthy Love
- Laurel Slade-Waggoner
- Jul 18, 2020
- 1 min read
Healthy Love Unhealthy Love
Reality-based Fantasy-based (hopeful denial)
Compliments each other Seeks to feel completed by the other
Finds a friend/acts like a friend Seeks a victim/creates a true victim
Sacrifices/surrenders power Demands sacrifice/takes power
Patient Impatient
Kind Rude
Forgiving Resentful
Doesn’t hold grudges/Works through issues Seeks revenge/quests for “fairness”
Creates growing trust/security Creates growing fear/powerlessness
Vulnerable Defensive
Allows for growth/change/uniqueness Pressed to conform and perform
Gentle Combative
Responsive Over-reactive or apathetic
Honest and transparent Deceitful and hiding
Desire to commit Fantasize about being free
Feels satisfied/content/joyful Feels restless/craving/stuck
My precious sister in Christ, I heard you on the radio a couple days ago and turned on the radio just as I was struggling with whether or not I should wait on my exhusband, and yet I know God delivered me from his covert narcissistic abuse. It breaks my heart what he's done to me, and what his family has as well, but it equally breaks my heart that this is the isolation and narcissistic conditioning he experienced his whole life with his family. I see what God is doing in Him (and equally in me). I want to be loved and be welcomed in a family, not exploited and gaslighted as an easy skapegoat target. But then I…
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